New Year Resolutions
- A Recipe for Success - Jan 5, 2005
M. Ron Eslinger, RN, CRNA, APN, BCH, CI
Every year
millions of people make their New Year's Resolutions, but few if any
follow through. Whether it is tobacco cessation, weight loss, study
habits, or just getting organized. the intentions are worthy, but the
will is weak. As the old saying goes "the road to Hell is paved
with good intentions." So why are these good, and in most cases,
healthy intentions so unsuccessful? It is simply because most people
do not know how to properly make and to put into action a resolution
that involves a mind-body connection.
No matter
what the resolution, following the rules of affirmation greatly enhances
your ability to create a successful life changing experience. There
are six important parts to making a successful resolution and they are:
1. Be Positive - Do not use words in your resolution such as not, don't,
and want. (i.e. I don't eat chocolate) instead one should say, "I
only eat chocolate in small amounts and feel full and satisfied."
2. Be Believable - Your goal must be believable and realistic. i.e.
To say, "I am going to lose 40 pounds this month" is probably
unrealistic and your mind will not accept it. However, Saying, "I
eat properly, sparingly, and exercise so that I lose 2-8 pounds a month"
is believable.
3. Be in the Present tense - To say, "I will eat properly and exercise"
means that it is always in the future and therefore does not require
immediate action. I am doing something is in the present and requires
actions now. Do not use the work "will" in making a resolution.
4. Be Simple - The simpler the suggestion, the easier the mind can record
and imprint the new behavior.
5. Be Measurable - Without the ability to measure we cannot tell if
we are doing what we say we are doing. We measure by time or content.
To say I walk daily does not have the same effect as saying, "I
walk 20 minutes every day at 4:00." By adding the time, we create
a habit and a ritual. Without the time, it becomes something we will
do if we get around to it. Of course there is always something we have
to do first, and then we realize it is time for bed and we haven't applied
action to our resolution. Then we think, "no matter, maybe I will
have time tomorrow".
6. Carry a Reward - Our lives revolve around getting rewarded for what
we do. Our paycheck, going out to dinner, and even watching TV may be
a reward. Therefore, by adding a built-in reward to our resolution we
greatly enhance our chances of success.
Example of a positive resolution for reaching optimal weight:
Every day at 4:00 I walk 20 minutes and eat properly so that I look
and feel my best.
See if
this resolutions affirmation meets the six part criteria.
1. Positive - Yes, no negative words are used.
2. Believable - Yes, unless a medical condition prevents the walk.
3. Present tense - Yes, no future or past tense used.
4. Simple - Yes, a single sentence that is very specific.
5. Measurable - Yes, everyday, 4:00, 20 minutes.
6. Reward - Yes, look and feel best.
What we just discussed does not happen overnight, but with constant
positive input to the subconscious mind, before long we find that our
pants are larger around the waist or that we are smoking less and less
until one day we realized we don't smoke anymore. Don't underestimate
the power of the subconscious mind.